Who’s idea was it anyway?
Full moon 16 November 2024
This month I felt confronted with a variety of disappointments, and it was those moments that had me evaluate expectations, disappointment and being true to ourselves.
I was disappointed in myself, my daughter came home from school extremely disappointed one day, a close friend of mine was disappointed in me and a few more disappointments popped up as the month went on.
Don’t get me wrong it was actually a good month, but these moments made me realize that we live under constant pressure to meet expectations. We impose expectations on others, others expect certain things from us, society has expectations in us and so on.
It’s very tiring to be disappointed but it is equally exhausting to try to live up to all these expectations in us, so maybe the way to fix this is to lower our expectations?
But this is where it get’s tricky, who created the expectation in the first place?
Yourself?
Society?
your friends or family?
the way you interact within your world?
I might not get to the bottom of this today, but what became clear to me is to be mindful of my own expectations in me and in others and to bring awareness to the source of the expectation and questioning if the expectation is in fact aligned with me rather than just going with it.
To give you an example:
I always felt disappointed in myself for not falling into the “skinny girl” category, until (after a lot of healing) I realized, this expectation is not my own. It is an expectation imposed on me by society and other people in my life, but doesn’t reflect who I am at my core (and my body), it wasn’t anything that I could ever meet and once I recognized this I freed myself from this expectation.
As we approach the Christmas season this might be a good reminder for some of you to check in - are the expectations truly aligned with yourself, or are they infact imposed on you by others? is it worth sacrificing yourself for this expectation or would you rather stay true to your own personal values?
It’s a deep one this month but one that can spark a huge amount of self reflection, great conversations and growth.
Much love to you all
Marisa
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